Im in a blog-war i guess. I try to not read what i don't believe in (gfcf, biomedical etc). I've been down those roads.. i know what the scenery looks like. I refuse to drink your kool-aid.
So this morning someone posted something about 'hey look at this' or whatever. I don't even remember how i got there.
Anyhow, there was this video. So I clicked play-
I saw this and was confused. First I thought, "how can i get one of those!!!!???" (it's not easy being home alone with both kids when Tommy loses control. I usually end up at the ER or the Dr.s office) So then, I read what the person is saying about these. How they're so horrible. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!!?! Horrible?? Have you ever tried to restrain a 200 pound man-child?! So, we're going back and forth.. i'm trying to REASON with this person(s) of how this is a USEFUL TOOL for those of us with aggressive ADULTS. (thinking maybe this is a mom of a younger child that has absolutely no concept of what puberty is going to do to her child(ren))
My bad, there i go trying to be nice again. Still struggling with learning that lesson. Then i get this response--
We wrote of our horror at the thought that rather than using other alternatives, this school appears to be jumping to a full restraint use. The horror is for the children who should be capable of being better assisted; if the school can't provide the quality intervention that allows for alternatives to physical restraints then the child is inappropriately placed. (she's clueless to where my son attends school apparently lmao!) And if the child is so severe that physical restraints are it, the child doesn't belong at home or in the school until the aggression can be managed better. There are other ways. Unfortunately they take time, training, research-just to name a few. Unfortunately, that is not what is offered in many schools.
Oh i wish i believed in Jesus.. so I could use the term "oh lord.. help me jesus".. Since I don't.. i'll quote Homer Simpson.
HELP ME JEBUS!
Some people just disgust me. I can't even waste my time with this bullshit today. It just PISSES me off how close minded people are. Let's just NICE autism away.. thats the ticket. YEAH! *rolls eyes*
People are always judgmental of things they don't personally need. I can't imagine what it takes to deal with an aggressive, full grown, adult, so I would never think myself qualified to make a statement like that.
ReplyDeleteAlso, GO JEBUS! ; )
I'm dreading the day, Racers only 5 but already really strong. Dealing with the meltdowns that are actually just that..meltdowns are the worst. Or the days that he's stimming so much and doesn't want to go to school is frustrating and brutal. I feel like I should be lifting weights now in order to deal with him later.
ReplyDeleteI started working out!!! hahaa I lost 60lbs and got back into shape because.. SURVIVAL! When Tommy looses it (it doesnt happen OFTEN at all. but when it does, its explosive) I have to be able to defend myself. I really used to FIGHT the school in NY because they had the quiet rooms. I thought OMG!!! I made them put ME in there and close the doors so i could see what it was like. I was appalled. When the day passed where I could no longer pick him up kicking and screaming to take control of the situation, my views changed. Its different when they're bigger than you. I can't even begin to tell you. And this lady thinking we live in FEAR.. we don't live in FEAR what so ever. But part of being a responsible parent, of ANY child, is keeping in mind the CAPABILITIES of your child. I would never put anyone kids in danger as I would expect another parent to show the same concern with MY kids. We don't live in fear. We are realistic. We know what he's capable of. We work very hard on safety here. Oh she just blew a FUSE in me today!! aarrggh!
ReplyDeleteGriffin is getting big. But(luckily?)he is very uncoordinated and as strong as a new born puppy and slower than my MIL after a bottle of Southern Comfort. And I'm built like a 300 pound lowland gorilla. (A fat lowland gorilla)
ReplyDeleteSo, I can only imagine what you're going through. Key word = imagine. I would never judge you or your methods of making your family's life safer and better.